Emotional truth, and what does it matter.
The nature of truth is a question that will stand for all time, unanswerable. But in this case what we will discuss the ‘experience’ of truth. What does the experience of truth mean, and what does it mean when people experience the same moment, but different truths.
A very limbic example.
We have all experience a moment with a pet dog, where we want it do something, and it doesn’t. Your dog is not able to communicate verbally, it can not reason with you or argue or offer alternatives. Its capacity for expression, comprehension and questions are limited compared to ours.
Now the moment I want you to recall is where you have requested your faithful puppy to do something and the dog doesnt want to, it is past the suddenly being deaf stage. It now can not come because it’s scared. Perhaps you try to call it off the couch from the other room. And it won’t, it can’t, at least at any speed. His head is down, he is looking around, he is full of doubt, apprehension.. fear. Now you throw them a piece of bacon. Presto, fear gone. Puppy runs over and eats the bacon and jumps off the couch, happy.
What happened to the fear?
Emotion vs expression
Think about a discussion that is heating up between two people, they are arguing about football. One man cannot convince the other of their point. He experiences a gap in the conversation somehow between effective language and ability to convince the other person. We have all been here, you want to make your point, but it isn’t working. This gap is then filled with emotion.
In other words, the person’s ability to convince and communicate to his debate is a function of two things. Language and emotion. The more effective and accurate and logical his language the less he will need to add emotion to get his point across.
Now we imagine two situations.
- Someone experiences a gap in expressing their views effectively because of a lack of some area, vocabulary, intelligence or even worse understanding the topic. For them to get their point across, they will likely experience more and more emotion as their words gradually do not have the effect they want in convincing someone. They may raise their voice or they may walk even away saying to hell with this.
- Or opposite situation, someone with great vocabulary and high intelligence, is trying to convince someone who can not understand what they are saying because it is to complicated. This person will become frustrated and maybe sarcastic or condescending. Again maybe they walk away or give into their frustration and start being condescending.
So whatever the situation, you will see the gap between the desired effectiveness of language and the result of language, being filled with emotion.
Effect of words ——-EMOTION————Result of words
Now if the effect one person wants to achieve is not that important, and they can not achieve it. The gap is not that large because they simply don’t care enough.
However, if the effect the person want to achieve IS VERY important, the gap between their words and result of their words is very large, you will see this gap being filled with emotion
Emotions as a proxy for effective expression
So let us use this proposition that emotions are functional as a replacement for effective communication in achieving the desired result in some environment. You can see why the dog, given no choice of expression, will automatically go with an emotional reaction, and here is the KEY… an emotional reaction THAT SERVES ITS PURPOSE. The dog did not want to get off the couch, it is now experiencing the emotion of fear, this gives it the justification to stay on the couch or take its time and hope the master forgets or gets distracted. Then it can stay on the comfy couch.
So the gap that was created by the dogs desire to not get off the couch, and its ability to express this was filled with the BEST emotion it could ‘choose’ one of fear. If it chooses another emotion, for example, anger and growled at its owners, it would not be a good move because they are dominant. If it growls or bites, it will lose the fight and have a worse experience. It is not in puppies best interest to have anger, the calculation is done before it even feels the emotion.
The experience of truth
Let us now move on to our final destination. In our hypothesis on emotions, we have established that emotion can be something that fills the gap between our ability in language and the effect of the language on a result. We have also established we will choose the MOST APPROPRIATE emotion to achieve this goal.
We are going into the subconscious mind of someone who is not able to communicate confidently, So let us now imagine a scenario where a person has an agenda.
You are a boss, you have been having a hard time firing an older worker. You have decided that this older worker is not fast enough. You feel quite bad for having this responsibility, but in your estimation, it has to be done. But the catch is, you feel terrible for having to do this deep down inside and you are unable to have a conversation that expresses this effectively. Your ability, confidence and even morals won’t let you just fire this person for possible financial gain. You not a used car salesman with words, you will not be able to convince this person YOUR best interest of having them leave is in fact, THEIR best interests.
Perhaps you start to build up a story in your mind.
The story is: This older person is just lazy, maybe even doing things on purpose to drag you down. Perhaps you start to criticise them to co-workers, you comment that they are slow and it’s frustrating. You feel guilty, so you prepare the people around you to agree with you. Now it’s going to feel much more logical if everyone else agrees as well. They will not judge you now, even though you wouldn’t prepare them like this unless you judge yourself subconsciously. You start to believe this story in your mind and justify your actions day by day. Eventually, you are looking at this worker ‘take their time’ and you just can’t contain how you feel. You tell them they are fired, they are too slow and you are angry. You have the feeling of frustration, the moment of anger and you now feel justified in firing this person.
So you can see that the gap in this person’s ability to express themselves and achieve the desired effect is filled with an appropriate emotion, that happens to serve the purpose.
Questions of truths
Now the question of truth come in. If this person we are studying is unable to recognise their inner conflict. If they are unable to express themselves to achieve their desired outcome. Then the gap between these things and the goal they have to achieve will be the emotion that serves it best. Now, this emotion is real, it will feel as true as any emotion. If emotions are energy vectors that drive us to action, this one was just as useful as any other feeling. So one is not less true than the other. So given how many people live in a world of emotion for expression, emotion or ‘gut instinct’ for decisions. Given this reliance on emotion in deciding what is real or TRUE, what emotion can we trust?
When deciding for ourselves the truth of anything, how much are we able to stand back from the emotion we may feel, and make a decision regardless. Is that possible to make a decision that defies our best interest, however, misguided that could be, and the emotion we feel that corresponds to achieving this? Is the dog truly experiencing truthful fear? Or was it just a means to an end, what the body created to develop motivation or lack of motivation to accomplish what it saw as its best interest.
How many life decisions or how many ways have we emotionally interpreted a situation based on how we ‘felt’. If the arguments above stand as valid, is ‘felt’ even a thing? And where does emotional truth stand in an argument or as a decision-making tool compared to other types of truths, if there are even other truth our minds can actually believe in.
- Are we all just doing things that suit us subconsciously and the feeling the emotions that give us the energy to do them and using this as an excuse or reason?
- What would even cause an emotion, the word ‘motion’ like a motivator is part of the letters in emotion. Is is just something that gives us energy for a reason we may or may not even be aware of?
- Did we decide what we needed to do, all our options, strengths, weaknesses and then decide to ‘feel’ like that so then making us do it?
- Does the fact why don’t chose our emotions and they are just occurring to drive us to do things make them untrue or untrustworthy?
Where does this leave all of us? Especially if we have no idea what the reasons they are even occuring for. It is something we all need to build awarness of, moment by moment, descision by descision and emotion by emotion.